Tammy Gold MSW, LSW, CEC and her team of “Nannyologists” have successfully been matching families with nannies for over a decade. They are the only agency to use Gold’s patented “11-Step Gold Standard Hiring Process,” the formula outlined within Gold’s Secrets of the Nanny Whisperer- How to Find and Achieve the Gold Standard of Care for Your Child. Initial family interviews, transcribed reference checks, and a psychotherapy-based approach don’t even begin to scratch the surface of what differentiates this group from their peers.

A Gold Standard Nanny is well-trained and meticulously matched with the appropriate family based on the nanny’s ability to handle a child’s emotional, developmental, and social needs.

A Gold Standard Nanny assures the “Constancy of Care” for your child. “Constancy of Care” means that your children will feel the same level of comfort, safety, and security with their nanny as they do with you. A nanny is not a parental placeholder, so it is crucial that they have the the “parent-like” skills and disposition that your children need in order to thrive.
1Questions to Ask Your Nanny Agency
When you’re looking for a nanny, the best nanny agencies can be very helpful to parents throughout their search. Good ones can provide an extra layer of guidance, screening, vetting, and background/reference checking – not to mention handling the logistics of arranging all your interviews, trials and contract negotiations. A great agency however, has a little “extra oomph” that can be critical in finding the ideal match. When you finally decide to start looking for a nanny (and if you’re even considering the idea of hiring a nanny agency, I suggest asking them lots of questions.

Here are the top 3 questions to ask your nanny placement agency

Who are the employees that are actually doing the matching and what are their backgrounds?

Is the staff comprised of fellow working parents who can empathize with your specific needs, understand your requirements, and really assist you with the intangibles of a search? Have they “felt the pain” of having to call out “sick” from work to deal with a childcare situation gone bad? Or is it a group of young business people with a slick internet-based matching engine that’s looking to “robo-match” nannies to families without a particularly keen focus on the durability and appropriateness of the match? This is an important consideration….would you hire a personal trainer who has never set foot in a gym for themselves and instead spends all day smoking cigarettes outside, infront of the building?

Which of your team members will be doing my nanny screening?

Do you have any therapists, experienced recruiters, or educators on staff who understand how to really screen candidates based on their emotional capabilities and understanding of the various developmental needs of children at the ages specific to your search? Do they really know how to interview the nannies like a trained therapist would ask you questions during a session? This too, is an important question. You want the people who are screening and interviewing the caregivers who will be in YOUR home with YOUR children to know what the heck they’re talking about and to be “on the ball” when it comes to ensuring the safety and well-being of your children is their top priority.

How much time will your team spend with me?

The nanny-family match is mutual it only works when both nanny and family are happy which requires a lot of “hand-holding” (for both nanny and family) throughout the process as things fall into place. This takes time…and anyone who tells you “this can be wrapped up in a week” is selling you a bill of goods that isn’t real. Sure, occasionally things just fall into place right out of the gates, but these things usually take 2-4 weeks at least. How long did it find you to find your apartment? How long did it take you to choose a name for your baby? Don’t you think that choosing a person to care for your child should require some considerable thought? Using these three questions will allow greater insight into what the best nanny agencies can really do for you.

Before you choose one, make sure you ask them!
2Tips For The Best Nanny Search
When you’re worried about childcare, it’s extremely hard not to rush. Especially if you need coverage immediately, you must force yourself to fight the initial panicked instinct to hire the first remotely qualified nanny and put her to work right away. But the truth is that you need a lot of data points to make a good decision. Rushing leads to stress, which leads to snap decisions and cut corners. You don’t think clearly, and you give yourself permission to overlook things: “She was kind of snippy when she did the bath, and I didn’t that, but it’s probably no big deal.” You want to allow yourself plenty of time, and

I can’t say it enough: the more time you spend on your Family Needs Assessment, the better. The good news is that we will do it with you, but taking care and attention to make sure we do this right is important. Your nanny will be intimately involved in raising your child, so you want to really hone in on the quirks and nuances of your family, and the nanny personality and skill set that you need. You’re the employer, so you get to create the job and it can be whatever you want it to be. BUT you need to be absolutely clear about the requirements and expectations from the get-go, because it’s when a nanny feels misled, or you feel like you’re not getting what you pay for, or you try to change the job and modify the nanny’s responsibilities along the way that things get complicated. This is why we make all of our families sign a Nanny/Family Work Agreement upon starting the position.

There will be pros and cons to every candidate, and every nanny will occasionally make mistakes. But that doesn’t mean that she can’t be a wonderful caregiver or that she isn’t the right fit for your family.

When you sit down with a nanny, try not to think, “Is this the person who’s going to care for my child for the next ten years?” Don’t worry about whether this is a life-long match, or whether you can see her being at your child’s wedding someday. Most nannies don’t stay forever; they typically stay for a few years and then move on as the family’s needs or their needs change. So all you have to decide is whether this person is the right caregiver for your child right now, and whether she will still be able to meet your needs 1-3 years down the line.

Yes, you are choosing to hire a nanny, and yes, as the employer, you are in the driver’s seat. But in the nanny’s mind, she is also deciding whether or not she should work for you, and any really good nanny will have her pick of jobs. Be aware that at any given point in the process, she will be asking herself, “How do I feel about this family? Do I like how they handle things? Do they make me feel respected and understood?” You are two equal parties in every sense of the word, and you want to think about it as an equal relationship from the start.

Remember that when nannies are interviewing with you, they are also interviewing with other families. Sometimes we know about it and sometimes we don’t. If you like someone, make sure that we (and she) know that you’d like to move on to the next step, and give us (and her) a specific timeframe so we all know what to expect. You want to keep us all in the loop so she knows you’re serious and hopefully will not jump to accept another offer.

Nanny searches require stamina, and, just like job searches or dating, they can have ups and downs. There will be setbacks: A nanny may do everything right and then be terrible in the trial, or your front-runner may get another offer that you can’t afford to match. You will sometimes feel like you are getting nowhere—and then suddenly we’ll introduce you to the right nanny and feel that “click.” The key is to be patient and continue with the process. If you stay the course, it does work.
3What Does The "Ideal Candidate" Look Like?
Everyone’s version of “ideal” is different, so this is a question that I ask all of my clients to think seriously about. This question helps parents to sum up the emotional job description by asking them to create a profile of the ideal nanny, based on a number of various preferences. Answers should focus on the nanny’s personality, style of caregiving, and personal background rather than on specific professional skills. The profile also lists some additional characteristics that parents often feel strongly about, such as age, personal appearance and religion. Go through each of the topics and write down what you think you want and why. There are no wrong answers here—the purpose of the exercise is to come up with an honest picture of the nanny you feel would be your ideal emotional match.

Age. I always tell my clients that age as a number often has very little significance when it comes to nannies. Instead, what you should assess for, depending on the needs of your child, is energy, physicality, and an ability to meet his or her developmental needs. Young children, especially toddlers and high-energy preschoolers, need someone active who can keep up with them all day long. While it might make sense to try to hire someone younger, age alone does not guarantee that a nanny will be willing to creatively and actively engage your child. A lazy Twenty-five-year-old nanny may be a worse fit than a woman in her sixties, like my own nanny, Maria. She has three times the energy I do! Similarly, age alone is not a predictor of experience. A nanny may be in her fifties and have been a nanny for thirty years, but that doesn’t mean that she will be a better fit for your family than someone newer to the profession. If age is something you feel strongly about, remember to keep an open mind and focus on qualities rather than the number.

Experience. The most important experience that any nanny can have is the kind that relates directly to your nanny position; for example, if you have twins and she’s worked with twins before, or if you are both full-time working parents, and she is used to that. The kind of experience that doesn’t matter (but which many parents end up focusing on) is how long she has been a professional nanny ,and whether or not the nanny has worked for some well-known family. If she is only a mediocre nanny, twenty years of experience doesn’t matter. Furthermore, plenty of well-known, wealthy families hire lousy nannies. As you think about this question, make sure that you prioritize the right kinds of experience, and do your best to pinpoint exactly what kind will enable a nanny to be successful at your job. Remember that you can’t just look at someone’s resume alone;you must see them in action during a trial.

Education. Some parents make a big deal about education, but in my opinion, how much it matters really depends on your situation. There are many wonderful nannies who have never been to college, or may have never even finished high school. Still, they can be loving, attentive caregivers who excel at playing ,teaching, and engaging with children. Especially with babies and very young children, my feeling is that formal education doesn’t matter nearly as much as the quality of the emotional nurturing and physical care.

That said, in some cases, a certain level of education may be necessary to meet your child’s developmental needs. If your children are older and need a Parental Unit nanny to help out with advanced homework and school projects,, or if you have a highly intelligent, precocious young child requiring a lot of learning-based stimulation to keep him entertained, then educational background may be a factor in hiring Regardless, the love and emotional connection between a nanny and child must be paramount. Without these elements, your child won’t be getting what he needs.

Cultural Background. Many parents come to the table with a host of preconceived notions about nannies from different cultures. For every parent I see who is afraid to hire nannies from a certain culture, I have another parent who is obsessed with a particular ethnic background and thinks they are the only permissible choice. In the nanny world, cultural stereotypes run rampant. While people from certain cultures may tend to possess certain cultural traits and mannerisms, my advice for parents has always been the same – when it comes to generalizations, don’t believe the bad ones, and don’t buy into the promise of the good ones. It’s always about the individual. Unless you have a very specific, legitimate reason for avoiding or preferring a nanny from a particular culture, I advise you to keep an open mind, evaluate each candidate individually, and cast as wide a net as possible.

Language Skills. We’ve already talked about foreign language skills, but how much should you care about English competency? In my experience, some parents go overboard on this, and others don’t prioritize it enough. Many nannies don’t speak perfect English, but no matter what people may tell you, a nanny’s imperfect grammar is not going to affect your child. If that were the case, we would have millions of kids walking around all over the country with foreign accents.

There are, however, several areas to consider and screen for with language competency. The first is reading: can the nanny read a book? It doesn’t have to be Proust or Dostoevsky, but children love to read, and reading builds both language and cognitive skills. Make sure that your nanny can at least read board and picture books during your children’s formative years. The second area of consideration is the ability to handle medications and communicate effectively during emergencies. If you have a Parental Unit nanny, these duties are going to be required. The third area is the ability to help with homework, if that is something you want from your nanny. If a nanny cannot do homework, you can always hire a tutor or help with it yourself later.

Far more worrisome than a nanny who speaks with an accent is having a nanny who doesn’t speak enough. A child isn’t going to learn words if the nanny isn’t speaking words to them, and this can cause a language delay. When it comes to a nanny’s language skills, don’t worry about perfect English;the most important thing is to have a nanny who engages your child in conversation.

Personality. Based on your answers in sections A and B, describe your ideal nanny personality. Keep in mind the person who will be primarily interacting with the nanny. It is that person’s preferences that matter most. If the father wants someone who is going to be very quiet and unobtrusive, but he’s at the office all week long, his wishes shouldn’t rule the day. However, if Dad works from home, and is going to manage the nanny in terms of directing, communicating, and weekly pay then his wishes certainly carry weight. Similarly, if both parents are gone all day, the most important thing is finding a nanny who will be an ideal personality match for your child. If your child loves the nanny, and the nanny loves the child (and meets all developmental needs), focus on that. All you need from there is a pleasant, professional working relationship.

Communication Style. To answer this question, think about times in your personal and professional life when you’ve communicated with different parties, and what type of communication works best for you. Some people just want to be the employer and to give the nanny directions. They want things to get done. Others want more collaboration, and operate as equals. They may want mutual feedback and constant discussion about handling certain situations. It is also important to think about how much communication you want to have: do you want text message updates and pictures throughout the day? Or would you prefer a once-daily (or once-weekly) recap? There are moms who say, “I want the nanny to ask me before she does anything,” and there are moms who say, “I can’t handle a million questions; I really need someone who can first try to figure it out, and only come to me if she still needs help.” The key is to first think about how you want to communicate, and articulate the style of communication that you need from your nanny.

Appearance. Some parents care a lot about a nanny’s personal appearance because they feel that their nanny is a role model for their children. They tell me, “If she doesn’t have a neat appearance, I don’t want to hire her.” But nannies are not going to work at a fancy office. They’re rolling around on the floor, making art projects, playing in the sandbox, getting spilled on, and sometimes doing chores and housework. Many nannies choose to dress purely for comfort, and that’s okay. My feeling is that unless your children are older, you don’t want to hire someone who’s so put together that she’s not willing to play trucks in the dirt because she might get mud on her outfit. You want your nanny to be comfortable and able to do her job without distraction. That said, if you have strong feelings about personal appearance (i.e. no tattoos or piercings) you have a right to screen for whatever you want. If it is casualness or frumpiness you’re worried about, think about what the job requirements and then make your decision.

Religion. Religion can be a sensitive subject for many people, but it’s one that bears consideration when it comes to nannies. If your nanny is very religious, or makes religious references (i.e. talks about Bible stories with your children) think about if that is something that will bother you. This is one issue that almost never comes up in a traditional nanny search, but can present big problems if it doesn’t get addressed. If you feel strongly that your child only have a certain type of religious influence, you should ask a nanny about her beliefs during the interview and make your wishes known: “We respect all religious viewpoints, but we really want our beliefs to be respected in our home.” Or, “We are responsible for our child’s spiritual upbringing, and we would prefer that you not discuss religion with our children at all.”
4Are The Nannies That Your Agency Works With CPR And First Aid Trained?
Are Gold Standard Nannies CPR and FIrst Aid Trained?

Nannies usually fall into three categories:

  1. Those who are CPR and First Aid trained
  2. Those who are CPR and First Aid trained, but with lapsed certificates.
  3. Those who are not CPR or First Aid trained, but are willing to become certified if that’s a requirement for the job. Our agency works with a mix of these types of candidates. We do not work with applicants who don’t have First Aid or CPR and don’t show a willingness to obtain these certificates.

We also often recruit nannies who have nursing degrees or infant/child CPR and first aid certifications.

Additionally, we ask our applicants to provide evidence of their certificates. We copy and store these documents in the candidate’s profile.
5When Should You Start Your Nanny Search?
When gearing up to start your process, you want to give yourself plenty of time. Six weeks is ideal to complete the entire process; four weeks is tight but doable.

To figure out your exact timing and when to begin your search, you need to decide on the start date for your position and work backward from there. Keep in mind that if you start looking too far in advance—for example, more than two months out from your start date—you run the risk of losing a nanny because she won’t want to wait that long to start a job. Most nannies need the money and want to find a position as soon as possible, so they won’t wait around. If you do find yourself in a situation where you find someone wonderful but can’t hire them immediately, it is possible to do a gradual ramp-up where the nanny comes a couple of days a week until you’re ready to have her full-time. But for the most part, once you make a nanny an offer, you should be prepared to have her start within 1-2 weeks.

Sample Timelines

6-Week Search

  • Week 1: Family Needs Assessment Call
  • Week 2: Initial candidate(s) review
  • Week 3: First interviews
  • Week 4: Trials, additional interviews with new candidates
  • Week 5: Additional trials if necessary
  • Week 6: Offer, transition into home

4-Week Search

  • Week 1: Family Needs Assessment Call
  • Week 2: Initial candidate(s) review
  • Week 3: First interviews + trials

Week 4: Second interviews, additional trials, offer, and transition
6Can A Nanny Do My Housekeeping?
Some nannies draw a hard line when it comes to housework, while others consider to be the bulk of their job. While I strongly believe that quality care for your child is far more important than having a spotless house, I also believe that good nannies are there to help the entire family. Overburdening a nanny with too many chores can certainly lead to problems, but it is perfectly reasonable to ask for some additional assistance around the house. The key is to define what you need early on so that it is a non-negotiable part of your job description from the start. For example, “Our child’s care is obviously our top priority, but I’m a working mother and I’m gone fifty hours a week. I really need someone to make the beds every day, unload the dishwasher, and use the Swiffer after mealtimes.”

Some parents are overly cautious about asking for help with housework. To those parents, I always advise being realistic about their needs. The truth is that being a working parent is tough. It’s exhausting to put in a full day at the office and then come home and be “on” for the most challenging part of the day. When parents walk through the front door, they will probably not want to see a sink are not sink full of dirty dishes, cat hair all over the couch, and a week’s worth of laundry piled up. Since parents create the job and pay the salary, it is up to them to consider what will be most helpful, and put those needs on paper as ‘must haves’ and ‘extras’.

The next best thing is to think about a list of possible household duties. Identify which ones , if any, you would like your nanny to take on. Some of the tasks that involve heavier cleaning (such as bathrooms, windows, and mopping) are really only doable if you have an Executor or Partner nanny who isn’t devoting most of her time to childcare. Peruse the the list, check which ones you want, and write down any additional duties that are specific to your home. If you already have a housekeeper, it may not be necessary to ask for additional help from your nanny at all.

Here are some housecleaning tasks that we often see clients ask their nannies to do

  1. Family Laundry
  2. Family dishes
  3. Make all beds
  4. Fold & put away clothes
  5. Tidy main living areas
  6. Change sheets
  7. Windows
  8. Bathrooms
  9. Vacuuming
  10. Mopping
  11. Sweeping
  12. Empty wastebaskets
  13. Dust
  14. Maintain grocery list
  15. Grocery shopping
  16. Bring in mail
  17. Bring in newspaper
  18. Recycling
  19. Take out trash
  20. Wipe down counters
  21. Errands
  22. Clean out refrigerator
  23. Organize pantry
  24. Organize entry areas
  25. Organize all closets
  26. Organize mail
  27. Dry cleaning
  28. Be at home to meet and manage housekeeper, plumber, electrician etc.
  29. If Live-In, clean and maintain own living area
7Your Household Duties: How Much Is Too Much?
I always tell parents that when you’re thinking about housework, you should look at your child’s daily schedule, hour by hour, and REALISTICALLY assess how much time your nanny will have for extra tasks. If you have a baby who naps twice a day for several hours, there is certainly time in the nanny’s schedule to do light cleaning and tidying up. Even if you have an active toddler who takes a good nap in the afternoon, there should still be time to do a few select household chores. However, if you have multiple children of different ages, or a child who only naps for 45 minutes at a time, you need to realize that the nanny will be on her toes all day long and most likely won’t have time to multi-task. You should never expect your nanny to do anything that you would be unable to do, and you never want her to get to the point where she’s thinking, “I really want to read to the baby, but I need to please the parents, and I still have to mop the kitchen and run the vacuum…”
8How To Find & Keep A Modern-day Mary Poppins?
One day, I received a call from a woman named Alicia, who lived in New York City with her husband, John. She had recently given birth to their first child, and with only three weeks left on her maternity leave, she was faced with the task of hiring her first nanny.

“I’m stressed because I have no idea what I’m doing,” she told me. “I wondering how to find a nanny in New York, but I don’t know what I’m looking for, or where to start. And I’m nervous, because I didn’t grow up with a nanny. I don’t understand nannies, and I don’t even really want a nanny in my house—but I have to go back to work. Can you help me?”

Many of my nanny agency clients are first-time parents who come to me feeling exactly like Alicia. They’re anxious because even though they want to hire a nanny, they don’t know that much about them, so they feel like they’re flying blind. The nanny world can be confusing and mysterious: nannies can be as different as night and day, there’s no standardized training or required certification, and usually, no clear correlation between specific duties and pay. Parents are forced to make up the rules on the fly in their own homes, and as a result, often have misguided notions or expectations about what a nanny should or shouldn’t be. It doesn’t help that, for many of us, the nanny we’re most familiar with is Mary Poppins—Walt Disney’s version of the magical, perpetually cheerful governess who arrives at her new employer’s home via umbrella and miraculously transforms the entire family through her firm-but-loving ways.

Julie Andrews’ portrayal of the character is so iconic that it has become part of our collective, cultural consciousness. When we think about the ideal nanny that we want for our children, we envision spoonfuls of sugar and everyone living happily ever after. We are often disappointed when a real-world nanny fails to meet that fictitious standard. However, there are many wonderful nannies out there who can be immensely loved by both you and your child. Just like Mary Poppins, these nannies can contribute to the joys of family life, and enhance your perspective on parenting and childrearing in remarkable ways. You just have to understand who they are, how they think, and what to expect from the arrangement.

Throughout this site and in my book, I attempt to give you a crystal-clear picture of what a nanny is and does. I explain what the job actually entails, and how you should or should not approach the relationship. I reveal the best and most-challenging aspects of the nanny-parent dynamic, and debunk common myths surrounding nannies, so that you can be as informed and realistic as possible when starting your search. I won’t sugarcoat the truth: unfortunately, the kind of perfection embodied by Mary Poppins doesn’t exist. Nannies are human, and just like everyone else, they have strengths and weaknesses, surprising talents and funny quirks, as well as their own needs and expectations. You will most likely never find the “perfect” nanny who flawlessly performs every conceivable task. However, if you follow my process, you will absolutely be able to find an amazing, real-world nanny who will be a perfect fit for your family.
9Au Pair (Often Misspelled As Opare Nanny) Considerations
An Au Pair (often searched online as “opare nanny”) is a young woman (often from another country), usually in her late teens or early twenties, who travels to the United States to live with a host family and care for their children while going to school and learning about life in America. Au Pairs are typically less expensive than traditional nannies because they are always Live-In; payment comes in the form of room and board and a small allowance. Au Pairs are found and hired through Au Pair agencies that handle the logistics of employing someone from overseas. They typically stay for only a year or two, and are intended to be embraced as one of the family rather than seen primarily as domestic help. Under the right circumstances, Au Pairs can be a wonderful way for children to connect with someone from a different culture and learn about life outside the U.S.

That said, Au Pairs are not for every family. Because they are younger, they tend to do best with caring for older children rather than babies or toddlers. In fact, many agencies don’t allow Au Pairs to care for babies less than 6 months old. Also, given some of their working hour restrictions, if you need 7am to 7pm coverage during the week, an Au Pair alone is not the solution. Furthermore, since they only stay for a relatively short period of time, the job is high-turnover by nature, which is never ideal for young children. Older children (ages 8 and up) can understand that the Au Pair is only coming for a year. But if a younger child bonds with Greta, and then with Marie-Claire, and then with Annika, and they all keep leaving, it can be very upsetting and confusing for them. You also want to think about how you will potentially feel about having a teenager or twenty-something living under your roof. If you are used to the routines and predictable hours of a five year old and a toddler, adding a teenager who wants to go out on the weekends or have friends over will certainly alter the dynamics.

The best way to have success when hiring an Au Pair is to be very clear about who you’re getting. You can do some of the same steps from the Gold Standard hiring process that you would do in a nanny search: you can’t typically meet them face-to-face, but you can interview them using Skype and check their references, either via Skype or email. Know your rules and expectations and be clear about them up front, so that when the Au Pair arrives she is prepared for the realities of your job.
10Which Is Better Nanny or Daycare?
Which is better: A Nanny or a Daycare? For many moms and dads, this is the million-dollar question. Most parents, given the choice, would prefer to have one-on-one care for their child provided by a single, familiar caregiver. But at an average cost of $850 a week (almost $50,000 a year if you factor in a bonus and other benefits) the cost of a nanny represents a significant financial stretch for many people. Daycare naturally costs much less. If you are in a position to afford either option, which one should you choose?

This is one case where the science of child development has a clear answer. During the first six to twelve months of your child’s life, the caregiver-to-child ratio really matters. Babies need a lot of attention in those first early months because they can’t neurologically self-soothe. Babies cannot stop a crying jag that occurs babies want to be held; children with reflux or colic may need extra care. Numerous studies show that infant brain development is highly influenced by the responsiveness of the child’s primary caregiver. Even in the best daycare centers, it can be hard for a baby to get the amount of one-on-one care that they need. In the first year of life outside the womb, your child is learning trust vs. mistrust (“If I cry, will someone respond and make me feel safe?”). They learn how to form secure attachments with others through repeated, positive, loving interactions, such as holding, smiling, singing, and rocking. With a 4:1 ratio in daycare, your baby will without question experience fewer of these interactions than he would with a single, devoted caregiver. Science tells us that 90% of the brain develops by age three, so whatever your child experiences as an infant will become the foundation of his emotional and behavioral makeup later in life.

I often interact with clients who can just barely afford nannies. Hiring one will be a financial stretch, and they wonder if the cost is truly worth it. To these clients I say this: If there is any way that you can stretch and have a nanny for the first 6-12 months of your child’s life, do it. Research supports the incomparable benefits one-on-one care that is provided by a loving caregiver can have on your child’s emotional, social and cognitive development during that time. After the first year, daycare may suffice. It may even have advantages because of the social and educational engagements. During the first few months, however, having someone to focus on your child and respond to her needs consistently, just as a parent would, will make a huge amount of difference.

Nevertheless,Keep in mind that the success of whatever option you choose is not only about the type of care itself, but also about the amount of time and effort you put into finding the very best nanny or daycare for your child. An excellent day care center can outshine a mediocre nanny any day. Quality must always come first.
11Are Nanny Cameras Legal In New York?
Yes. But there are certain restrictions:

  1. Parents are allowed to install and use hidden cameras in their home and may record a nanny even without her consent. Still, as I have mentioned in other FAQs and blog posts, this can create an uncomfortable situation if parents do not tell the nanny she’s being recorded. Legally parents are allowed to use nanny cameras. When our nanny candidates go for interviews and trials, we tell them to expect that they will be filmed at all times, even if the family does not explicitly say this.say they are. Some families may include a release to be filmed as a condition for employment.
  2. While they are legal, nanny cameras come with restrictions. Nanny cameras cannot be installed in bathrooms used by the nanny or in the private bedroom if the nanny is a live-in nanny. Typically, nanny cameras are most often installed in the common areas and bedrooms of the home where the children spend most of their time.
  3. Nanny cameras can only be used to make sure that a child is being cared for appropriately and not for the purpose of voyeurism or commercial enterprise.
12How Do Nanny Cameras Work?
Nanny cameras are cameras installed in your home (they can be integrated into home electronics like clock radios or TVs, or they can be stand-alone visible cameras). Nanny cameras enable parents to keep an eye on what occurs inside their home while they’re out of the house.

If you are thinking about using a nanny cam, it is essential that you inform the nanny. You don’t have to ask her permission, because legally you are allowed to video anyone in your own home. But if you don’t tell the nanny, and then need to confront her about something you’ve seen, you will be in the very awkward position of having to explain that you’ve been recording her without her knowledge. That kind of deception can undermine the trust in your relationship, so I strongly advise honesty from the start. Most good nannies won’t have an issue with being recorded because they have nothing to hide. Parents on the fence about using a camera sometimes tell their nannies they use one even if they don’t; this can be a tactic to weed out any nannies hoping to bend the rules. This will also provide you as the parent with extra reassurance in the bargain.

The easiest way to explain that you’ll be using a nanny camera is to tell the nanny that it has nothing to do with her. Keep the focus on your child, and explain that your goal is simply to check up on him/her. You can say, “It’s very hard for us to be away from our son, we really miss him when we’re at work, so it’s helpful for us to log on during the day and see that he is safe and happy.” Make sure to reiterate that this is not about your trust or confidence in her, but more about feeling connected to your child.

After finishing nanny training, some parents have a good friend or family member stop by the apartment, unannounced. Others enroll the nanny and child in a group class, like music or art. This is a good opportunity to see how the nanny and child interact around others and in social settings. This also allows those who observe the nanny-child relationship to report back to you on anything they see. Knowing that others are involved and looking will keep the nanny on her toes, and ensure that your nanny always behaves her best.
13Does The Family Provide The Nanny With Healthcare & Other Benefits?
When looking for a nanny, it may be a good idea to think about any additional compensation and benefits for your nanny. Be prepared to discuss these topics with your nanny when you make her an offer:

  • Overtime: Overtime refers to any hours beyond what you and your nanny agree will be standard for her salary. Under the Fair Labor Standards Act, Live-Out nannies who charge an hourly rate are entitled to an overtime rate of time and a half. Some nannies will ask for higher rates on weekends, holidays, and travel.
  • Bonuses: Most nannies, both full and part-time, will expect to receive an annual bonus of 1-2 weeks’ pay. It is up to you to decide now how much you will pay and when you will pay it. As the employer, you can present it to the nanny as a part of your offer.
  • Health insurance: Providing health insurance is not standard, but it may be required for some nannies hired through high-end agencies. Health insurance is expensive, so I usually recommend that parents keep it in their back pocket and only use it to sweeten the deal if negotiations get tough. In some cases the family will choose and pay for a new policy; in other circumstances, families will pay the nanny an annual or monthly stipend to cover all or part of the premium cost of a plan that she selects.
  • Vacation Days: Nannies typically get the standard Big Six: New Year’s Day, Memorial Day, July 4th, Labor Day, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. Anything in addition to these six will need to be a part of your negotiation. Be sure to discuss exactly which holidays she gets up front so there is no confusion later on.
  • PTO: Standard vacation is 1-2 weeks with pay. Parents usually stipulate that they get to choose one week—often chosen to coincide with a family vacation so they don’t need to pay for extra childcare coverage—and the nanny gets to choose the other one. If you have a flexible schedule, you can offer more in exchange for a lower weekly rate, or as a perk if the nanny is choosing between offers.
  • Sick Days and Personal Days: Parents usually group these together and offer 3-5 per year, to be used as the nanny needs them. When it comes to sick days, however, I recommend a more flexible policy if you can manage it. It is never a good idea to have your nanny come into work and share her illness with others. Instead of designating a number of days, try saying “as many days as necessary, with approval.”
  • Taxes: I strongly suggest contacting your tax advisor or a nanny tax professional (firms like 4nannytaxes.com) that can provide a nanny tax calculator, nanny payroll services, and give you advice on properly paying nanny taxes according to the applicable federal and state rules.
14Will The Area I Live In Affect The Type Of Nanny I Hire?

There are a variety of elements that factor into hiring a nanny, and location is certainly one of them. In addition to varying market rates, another key thing to be aware of when hiring a nanny is how your location will affect the parameters of the job. Just as there are major lifestyle differences between the city and the suburbs, urban and suburban nannies often have a different mix of responsibilities. Being a nanny in the suburbs requires a greater degree of proactivity and independence. Let’s take a look at the differences between urban and suburban nannies, and at how your location can determine your nanny’s role.


Being a nanny in the city, or a highly walkable urban area, is in many ways an easier job because it requires less complex navigation. A city nanny may simply come to the family’s apartment, feed and dress the child, and then walk the stroller three blocks to the playground where the child can automatically socialize with other children. She may run some local errands, but will primarily be opening the door for dry cleaning and grocery deliveries. If the family lives in an apartment, there is usually a superintendent to call if there’s a problem If there are other children in the building, the nanny has a ready supply of built-in playdates. The Urban Nanny also has an abundance of options for fun right at her fingertips, so creativity is never in want. Living in the city means logistics are simple and activities are usually in close proximity to each other, so it is easy for nannies to entertain the children and follow the prescribed order of the day.


In the suburbs, where the parameters are much looser, nannies need to exercise a different kind of savviness. If they are driving, suburban nannies will need to be comfortable navigating a potentially unfamiliar town and its surrounding areas. They may also need to drive children to school/activities, and pick up supplies and groceries on their own. There may or may not be kids in the immediate neighborhood, so nannies will need to be comfortable approaching other moms and nannies to set up playdates. They will also need to be creative enough to come up with things to do if they’re stuck inside on a rainy day.. If both parents work full-time, the nanny will need to manage the household, especially in emergent situations. Strong language skills and street smarts are necessities.In general, suburban nannies need to be equipped to handle a wide range of everyday duties and concerns.
15What Can You Expert from Your Nanny?
  • That she is engaged and interested in your child
  • That she is devoted to selflessly caring for all of your child’s physical, emotional and social needs
  • That she respects your wishes and rules
  • That she behaves professionally while on the job and does not bring negative energy to work

In my work with clients, I encounter two extremes with parents. The first are the type of parents who tiptoe around the nanny and are afraid to ask her to do things, even though she is their employee and it’s her job. These are usually the first-time parents who didn’t grow up with a nanny and are hesitant about their role as employers. Even if they manage an entire team at work, the personal-professional nature of the nanny relationship may throw them for a loop. They could end up deferring to the nanny rather than directing her. Alternatively, the parents may be sensitive to cultural or class differences, and feel uncomfortable asserting their authority. I meet parents all the time who are fearful of the nanny and refuse to hold her accountable, despite the fact that they pay her a good salary and do not receive what they need

At the other end of the spectrum are the parents who ask too much of the nanny and don’t understand why what they’re asking for is inappropriate. These are the parents who expect their nanny to be up all night with a baby, chase after two older children during the day, cook all meals from scratch, and scrub the toilets in her spare time—all for $500 a week. To them a nanny is not a person; she’s a machine.

Your goal as a successful nanny employer is to find the middle ground. As the employer, you are in charge.Your nanny is obligated to respect your wishes and fulfill the responsibilities that you outlined when you hired her. On the flipside, your nanny is more than just a household employee; she is the person devoting herself to loving, teaching, and caring for your precious little one, and there is no job in the world that’s more important. Your expectations for your nanny should not only be centered around the tasks that she performs, but also around the manner in which she cares for your child. The following lists will help you to gain a deeper understanding of what you should, and SHOULD NOT expect of your nanny.

Your Nanny Is…

A Professional. Being a nanny is a job—a REAL job–just like any other. For many nannies it is their life’s work and chosen career, and they take great pride in their ability to do it well. While it may not require a PhD, any seasoned parent knows that there is no substitute for experience when it comes to raising children. The ability to love and nurture a child is not something that can be learned in a classroom. Still, it requires knowledge, skill, and a tremendous amount of hard work.

Nannies are service professionals who,just like doctors or lawyers,know their worth and want to be compensated fairly for their work. They also want to be respected by their employers. Nannies have the right to ask for salaries commensurate with experience and job requirements, and to make requests and voice their opinions. They can draw the line if they are treated unfairly or asked to do something unreasonable or unsafe.

Unfortunately, nannies often don’t get the respect that they deserve. There are plenty of parents (such as those depicted in the bestselling novel, The Nanny Diaries), who view their nannies as the lowest member of their household,and treat them accordingly. I’ve also seen countless, otherwise-normal parents become offended and accuse the nanny of being greedy when she asks for a higher salary than they were hoping to pay, or if she asks for a raise when her job parameters change—for example, when the family has a second child.

I always tell my clients that a big part of a successful nanny-parent relationship is the ability to see things through your nanny’s eyes. Even if you come from entirely different backgrounds, you need to remember that your nanny is a professional, just like you, and afford her the same consideration and respect that you would expect to get from your own boss. The better you treat your nanny, the more she will give back to your child.

A Caregiver. Good nannies do the job because they truly love children, so in most cases, assume that your nanny’s primary focus will be your child. From a practical standpoint, this means your nanny should manage everything that has to do with your child and his/her daily needs. With an infant, the nanny will do feedings, sing songs, play, and put the child down for naps. She may also do light, baby-related housekeeping (i.e. folding the child’s laundry, or sterilizing bottles) while the baby sleeps. With toddlers and older children, the nanny’s duties expand to outings, playdates, meal preparation, school transportation, sports/ activities, and homework. Her job is to care for the child and meet their needs whenever the parents aren’t around.

Still, caregiving in the truest sense of the word is about far more than just a nanny’s physical duties and responsibilities. Being a good caregiver also means caring for a child’s emotional needs. Nannies must nurture the child through positive loving interactions and relate to him or her affectionately. . Many parents tend think that a nanny is adequate as long as their child is fed and safe, but if the emotional piece of the care is missing, your child won’t be getting what he/she needs. There are many potentially good nannies who commit what I call “Benign Neglect,” they do the physical aspects of the job, such as feeding and dressing, but neglect the emotional ones. Considering the fact that children learn through every exchange they have with their caregivers (including cuddling, rocking, smiling, laughing), this can have long-lasting impacts.. These simple exchanges seem innocuous to us, but actually stimulate crucial activity in the child’s brain and can fill them with joy. Studies have shown that children who lack these types of caregiver interactions have smaller brains and fewer neuronal pathways for learning.

Your nanny’s daily interactions with your child, therefore, will lay the foundation for other emotional and social bonds throughout his life. If your nanny continuously responds and loves your child; if she snuggles/plays, laughs with him; if she speaks with interest to him; if she comforts him, then your child will feel cherished and secure, and he will thrive. Alternatively, if a nanny disengages, stares off into space during feedings, abstains from conversing, lacks facial expression(what we call in therapy, “flat affect”), then it is like putting the child in a darkened room. Nannies who go through the motions but don’t connect with the child can bring upon detrimental repercussions for the child.

Good nannies put the “care” in caregiving by nurturing the whole child(mind, body, and spirit) and do not just tend to his basic needs. Good nannies may not realize that they are stimulating a child emotionally and socially by reading books, playing games, and talking endlessly to your child throughout the day, but they are. It’s important to look for someone who is selfless and loving, generous with their affections, and eager to engage and play. You will also want to pay close attention to how the nanny interacts with your child, during in-home trials and after you hire her. If the crucial, emotional piece of the caregiving isn’t there, it doesn’t matter how efficient, flexible, or inexpensive she is: this nanny is not fit for the job.

A Teacher. Childhood is an amazing journey, filled with great leaps and important milestones. In the first few years of your child’s life, he or she will learn learning to walk, talk, feed himself, dress himself, use the potty independently, make friends, learn letters and numbers, play games, climb a jungle gym, and understand basic safety rules (such as holding a grown-up’s hand while crossing the street). As he gets older, your child will begin to tackle bigger things, such as learning responsibility (for example, making his own bed), getting along with others and navigating different social situations, managing schoolwork, and perhaps becoming a big brother or sister. At every stage, he will look to those who are closest to him to guide him—and while that will certainly be you, it will be your nanny too.

The truth is that, depending on the hours that you work, your nanny may very well be present for many or even most of your child’s “teachable moments,” big accomplishments, and “firsts.” And even if she isn’t physically there when your one-year-old says his first word, or finally fits the octagon into the shape-sorter, she will have been there for all the previous attempts, laying the foundation for his success and guiding him along the way. Each day is packed with learning moments and your nanny will be on deck to demonstrate, explain, and be your child’s personal cheerleader. It won’t matter if the accomplishment is shoving a fistful of Cheerios into his mouth, or writing his name on paper. Your nanny will be along for the ride.

Young children’s brains develop at a remarkably rapid rate and it is the caregiver’s job actively foster cognitive and educational growth. A 2008 study showed that children who are ignored when they begin to babble do not develop language skills at the normal rate. Other studies have shown that activities like play stimulate brain cell activity and can actually increase your child’s IQ. In your search, it is therefore essential to look for candidates who are not only affectionate and reliable, but who are also eager, encouraging, and instructive in positive ways. I always tell my clients that they should give their nannies just as much respect as they would a teacher at their child’s school. Nannies do more to shape the minds and hearts of the children in their care than most people give them credit for.

A Role Model. In addition to teaching finger-feeding and ABCs, good nannies also nurture the children the care for by modeling positive emotional and social behaviors, such as kindness, love, patience, enthusiasm, and polite, appropriate interactions with others. All children learn by watching, listening, imitating, and taking cues from their primary caregivers. If you have even a part-time nanny, she will , be one of your child’s most important role models. If your nanny is impatient, or operates in a gruff manner, your child will almost certainly model this behavior. Similarly, if a nanny is timid or anxious due to critical parents the child may exude anxiety and fear.. I. Because your nanny is constantly around your child, it is essential that she leads by (positive) example.

Some parents tend to get hung up on superficial elements about the nanny that they don’t want their children to emulate. This could be as ancillary asas speaking with an accent or dressing in a certain way. In all of my years of experience, I have never once encountered a child who began dressing like the nanny or spoke with a faux accent for the long term.. Children tend not to pay attention to those things, but are hardwired from birth to model social behaviors. Finding a nanny who can be a role model in terms of her character, demeanor, and approach to life is far more important than finding one who is dresses just like you.
16What Your Nanny Is Not
Your nanny may be many things, but there are jobs for which it is best to find another employee. Here is my advice for identifying what your nanny is NOT:

A Housekeeper. If your nanny is already doing your children’s laundry and dishes, and tidying up the playroom and kitchen every day, it can be tempting to ask her to do more. But if the nanny is fully responsible for caring for your child all by herself, heavy cleaning (scrubbing bathrooms, doing all the laundry, vacuuming the entire house each week) should not be her responsibility. If you are looking for someone to keep your home spotless, hire a housekeeper. Don’t put it all on your child’s nanny, unless you are at home a great deal and can watch the children while she is cleaning.

As any stay-at-home parent will tell you, caring for children all day long is more than a full-time job. Working parents who have full-time childcare may not realize the energy, patience, and creativity that is needed. Children must be engaged, fed, happy, and kept out of trouble from the moment they wake until bedtime.. If a nanny struggles to balance childcare because of an overly ambitious list of chores, not only will her stress levels rise, but your child will also be shortchanged. The last thing you want is for your nanny to skimp on bedtime stories because she needs to clean the upstairs shower.

An exception to this rule would be Partner Nannies or Executor Nannies; they work with parents who are at home, or at home part-time, and do only limited amounts of hands-on childcare. Partner/Executor Nannies may also be good for school-age children who are more self-sufficient and gone all day. In these scenarios, it may be fine for a nanny to take on more responsibility around the house, assuming that she’s willing to do so.

A Personal Chef. Just as you should not overload your nanny with housework, be cautious when it comes to extensive meal preparation.If you are looking for someone to meal plan for the entire family, shop for food, and have an elaborate dinner ready for everyone when you get home from work, you need a cook, not a nanny.

I once worked with a family who had three young boys all under the age of five. The parents were at their wits’ end because their nannies kept quitting and they couldn’t figure out why. When I dug deeper, I learned that the boys were extremely rowdy, that the parents wanted the nanny to prepare fresh-cooked, organic dishes for every meal (dinner was supposed to feed the entire family), and that they had a rule about no TV. I asked them how on earth they expected the nanny to chop and prepare ingredients, cook gourmet meals, feed the family, and keep an eye on three boys when she couldn’t even use the television to get them to sit still for a half hour!

Parents may think that nannies are miracle workers, but preparing meals takes time and focus, and is especially challenging if the nanny has very young children under her care. Additionally,there are safety issues: hot pots and burners, open flames, and knives left on counters are all dangerous if a nanny is distracted. Unless there is a parent at home to help manage the children, or the children are old enough to keep an eye on themselves, your nanny should be allowed to focus on feeding your children, rather than being a personal chef.
17Is Hiring A Nanny The Same As Hiring A Babysitter?

In prior FAQs, I outlined the basic pros and cons of hiring a nanny and I compared that to a nanny share arrangement and hiring an au pair (some people mistakenly spell this “opare nanny”. I have also been making the case as to why simply typing “best nanny agencies nyc” into Google and clicking on the first agency you see will only cause you to spin your wheels. In fact, before you can even think about how to hire a nanny agency, you must first decide if a nanny (vs. other childcare options) is the right choice for your family anyway. In this FAQ, we’ll discuss babysitting and its pros and cons.


Average Salary: $8 to $20 per hour

Annual Cost: Varies depending on number of hours

A babysitter is someone who occasionally looks after your children for a few hours on an as-needed basis. Many parents blur the line between babysitters and nannies, but in reality they are two distinct jobs that require very different skills. A babysitter is literally someone who sits with the child and keeps an eye on them until the parents come home. They may play with the kids, and they will know how to keep them safe, but they are not professional caregivers;hey have a short-term focus. Babysitters don’t perform additional duties such as cooking or cleaning, or think about the larger household; they are focused solely what to do with the kids for the few hours that they are there. This is a much more casual relationship.

Parents who need part-time help are often torn between hiring a babysitter or a nanny.

I always tell them that the more regular the hours, and the more duties and autonomy you want the caregiver to have, the more you should lean toward a nanny. When you hire a babysitter, they may or may not come with childcare skills. You will need to direct them and tell them exactly what to do while you’re gone. “Help Emma with this art project; please give her a bath; please feed her dinner at 6:00 pm- it is in the microwave so all you need to do is heat it up for 3 minutes and thirty seconds.” While a nanny will require some training at the beginning, she will ultimately be able to take charge in a way that most babysitters will not. Nannies also think longer-term: they will think about how to start good rituals with your child, how to keep them on a schedule, and how to keep the whole household running smoothly. A babysitter probably won’t think that calming down your child will allow him to eat a good dinner and get a good night’s sleep. A nanny, however, will, because a) that’s her job, and b) she doesn’t want to come back tomorrow and have a child on her hands who has been up all night and is miserable.

When you hire a babysitter, even though the arrangement is more casual, you want to do as much due diligence as you would when hiring any other caregiver. All of the steps in my Gold Standard hiring process can and should be applied to sitters, even the trials.


  • Hired as needed, so there are no continual outgoing costs
  • Flexible hours


  • May be inexperienced in caring for very young children
  • Will need direction
  • Only focused on the few hours that they are there
  • May be hard to book on short notice
18Will A Good Nanny Will Be Able To Come In And Automatically Know How To Care For Your Child?
No. You will never be able to find someone who cares for your child perfectly from Day One, no matter how much experience they have. Even if someone has been a nanny for thirty years, they have never been a nanny in your home before. Every set of parents and every child is different, so training is a must with any nanny you hire. Unless you give specific, thorough directions about how you want things done, the nanny will come in and do things her way. This may or may not work for you and your child. Even if you are looking for someone to run the show (and many full-time working parents are) you still need to provide the nanny with a detailed overview of your children, your household, your preferences, and your rules.

More than half of the problems that arise between nannies and parents occur because the parents fail to give the nanny proper guidance and instruction. Fortunately, this also means that many nanny issues can be remedied simply through adequate training. Don’t worry; it’s never too late.
19Is It Easier To Care For Other People's Children Than For Your Own?
In all honesty, it is often more difficult to care for other people’s children than for your own. With your own children, you can bend the rules and change them as you go. You can let your child sleep in the car seat in the garage, or leave him crying while you take two minutes to brush your teeth. Nannies can’t. You can take a day off and park your child in front of the TV, or be grumpy before you’ve had your coffee; you can lose your temper when your child colors on the dog with a Sharpie marker or decides to cut her own hair. Nannies cannot do that . Being a nanny can be every bit as challenging and exhausting as being a parent,but without the leeway that parents can periodically afford themselves.

One of the main things I try to impress upon parents is that being a nanny is DIFFICULT. This job requires a ‘jack of all trades’ mentality; you have to be a mother but also a helper; you have to be proactive but also subservient; you have to make it personal by showing your child love, but also show the parents professionalism. Many nannies work twelve hour days and commute for an hour or more to get to and from their jobs. They may be leaving their own children and families in other countries so they can earn a living and seek better lives.When the toddler is on her tenth tantrum of the day, and the preteen is sassing back, and the five-year-old tips over the entire gallon of orange juice onto the floor, a mother has her love for her children to pull her through. A nanny has to rely on her own reserves of patience, strength, and determination to help her persevere.

The fact that a nanny is a “professional,” doesn’t make the realities of the job any easier, so you must provide them with utmost respect. Nothing requires more time, energy, and personal discipline than being a good parent—except when trying to parent someone else’s kid.
20If We Are Paying For The Nanny, Should She Do Whatever We Ask?
Some parents think that just because they’re paying a nanny’s salary, they are entitled to ask the world of her. I’ve had parents who are running their nanny ragged say to me, “I don’t care if she’s tired, I’m paying her to watch these kids!” Taking advantage of your nanny is not only wrong, but it can lead to safety issues. Nobody can be up all night with a baby and then chase after two older children all day long without mistakes and accidents occurring. If you stretch your nanny too thin your children will suffer and the nanny will quit; no one wins.

There is an illusion among some parents that money can buy anything, but that is simply not true. Just because you are paying someone to do a job doesn’t mean they are your property. As we said earlier, there are some things that parents have a right to expect from a nanny: warmth, love, respect of the rules, and devotion to all things childcare (physically, emotionally, and otherwise). Still, unless discussed ahead of time and the nanny agrees, parents do not have a right to ask the nanny to do anything that is not directly related to the child, no matter how much the pay. Some younger or inexperienced nannies, especially those new to the country, may desperately need the money and be uncomfortable saying “no” to employers. This is when exploitation can occur, and it is up to the parents to draw the line.

I always remind my clients: If your nanny is exhausted and overburdened, she is not going to be at her best for your child. Accidents happen when people are tired and distracted, and you want her to bring her A-game every single day. Above all, you need to be realistic about your expectations, and recognize that your nanny is a person, just like you.
21Is My Nanny "Lucky" To Have This Job?
Sure! Anyone who gets to care for your children is lucky. Still, just because it is a bad economy does not mean that your nanny does not deserve thanks. In my experience, too many parents have a backwards notion of gratitude when it comes to nannies. They feel like the nanny should be grateful to them, instead of the other way around.

I once had a client who had a Live-Out nanny who changed to Live-In for the summer. The family had a house in the Hamptons, and once the two older children were out of school, they packed up the entire household and moved to the beach. The nanny, however, felt angry and resentful because even though her workload had tripled (she was now in charge of watching three children all day long instead of a single toddler, and her hours extended well into the night) the family flatly refused to pay her additional money.

When I explained the nanny’s position to the mom, she looked at me like I had two heads. “Tammy,” she responded, “She’s getting a summer at the beach! Her room is enormous, the house has gorgeous views of the ocean, she’s at the beach all day with the kids, and she gets fresh produce from the garden at every meal!”

“Allison,” I fired back, “She’s the nanny! She’s not vacationing in the Hamptons for the summer, this isn’t fun for her, it’s her job!”

Almost every set of parents I meet thinks that they are the most reasonable employers and that their kids are the most charming kids, even if evidence suggests otherwise. Many parents also feel that any nanny who works for them should thank their lucky stars to be getting a share of their hard-earned cash each week. his attitude is arrogant and misguided. While it is true that there are a lot of available nannies, good nannies are always in high demand and will have their choice of who they work for. Yes, you can always find another one, but she may not be the right one. This is why if you have a good nanny treat her extremely well and do whatever you can to keep her.

If you do nothing else, always remember that YOU are the LUCKY ones; lucky to have your nanny in your life.